THE GOLDEN RULE IN MARRIAGE

Drs. Chris and Carol Green

We stood before a minister, taking those sacred wedding vows, but five months later we were beginning to feel like this was not going to work. Our marriage was in the first stages of disintegration. No matter how sincerely we were trying to communicate, we could not connect. Words, phrases and actions said one thing but it meant something totally different to the other person. We didn’t have the same language because we didn’t have the same words.  We didn’t even have the same alphabet.

We cannot recall the exact date and time, but following another one of those frustrating and futile moments of trying to communicate, we sat down together to try and reach some agreement. We had to find a way to stay connected with one another. So we made a PACT and it went something like this:

“I choose to believe that no matter how you say, what you say to me, you are not intentionally trying to hurt me, you meant it for my good.”

Our pact was simply the Golden Rule being applied to our relationship. When we made this pact, we had no idea how significant it was going to be. We just felt a new sense of peace. It was like we were finally, really married. We had slowly moved beyond the soaring emotional connections of love and advanced to a solid unconditional acceptance of one another. We had forged the Golden Rule into our marriage. We had each said, “I will treat you the way that I want to be treated. I will trust you the way that I want to be trusted.”

We had a new security. We had tapped into a secret place from which we could begin learning one another’s alphabet and thus begin to piece together words and sentences.  Simultaneously, we could build a stronger connection between us. It was like working on our health while working on an injury at the same time.

The Golden Rule has been a huge part of the foundation of our marriage for more than 35 years and we have also been teaching it as a healing prescription for the couples that we coach. Sometimes our family and friends comment on our present ability to communicate in a manner that seems almost telepathic. We can just say one word or give a brief glance across a room and we are able to conduct an entire conversation in a few seconds.

This new level of communication began when a couple that had only been married for six months, in a moment of desperation, made a Golden Rule choice for their relationship.

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This Article was written by Drs. Chris and Carol Green

World Peace Ambassador, Dr. Clyde Rivers calls Drs. Chris and Carol Green the leading skilled experts in rebuilding, restoring and renewing hearts and homes. The Green are certified master life coaches who founded the Fruitful Life Network, Inc. an innovative community care and coaching outreach. They are international columnist/writers with the award winning team of Dr. Clyde Rivers and iChange Nations Social Media News™.

CHRIS AND CAROL GREEN RECEIVE GOLDEN RULE INTERNATIONAL AWARD AT THE HOODRISE NATION URBAN EVENT

World Peace Ambassadors Chris and Carol Green w/Ambassador  Dr. Clyde Rivers    

November 2015 in Harrisburg PA, Chris and Carol Green received the Golden Rule International Award (World Peace Ambassador appointment) for living a life that exemplifies the motto of the Golden Rule International, “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”

Chris and Carol Green are the founder and leaders of Fruitful Life Network, Inc, an urban life coaching initiative. Some of their accomplishments include, publishing 14 books, the production of over 150 songs, the creation of their Fruitful Living Online Courses and establishing a Consulting and Coaching Business. They have also chosen to partner with various organizations, groups, business and urban community outreach efforts in their region. Their lives are dedicated to helping others. They are the recipients of the iChange Nations™ Community Ambassador Award as well as this Golden Rule International Goodwill Ambassador appointment.

Ambassador Rivers commented, “It is such a privilege to appoint this powerful couple as Golden Rule International World Peace Ambassadors. Their lives bear the fruit of the Golden Rule, ‘Treat others the way you want to be treated.’ I have no doubt they will continue to carry this message into every corner of the world they have the opportunity to touch. Welcome Good Will Ambassadors, Chris and Carol Green.”

Ambassador Dr. Clyde Rivers is the Founder and President of iChange Nations™ a professional institution that equips, mentors and trains highly esteemed individuals who have the desire to change nations throughout the world. The organization is seeking to bring global awareness by strategically helping nations to educate, train and support the Nation Building Process designed to improve the dignity and betterment of human life. This international platform focuses on establishing effective relationships to help people understand the value of life and basic human rights.

The Golden Rule International Award is now established in 120 nations of the world. This organization seeks out top achievers that live the Golden Rule in their everyday life. This is a new global ethic that the leadership of the Golden Rule International Award, Patron, former President of Ethiopia, Girma Wolde and Ambassador Mussie Hailu have embraced and are promoting globally. Ambassador Clyde Rivers is also the Representative for the Golden Rule International and the Interfaith Peace-Building Initiative, North American Division to the United Nations – New York. Interfaith Peace-Building Initiative is affiliated with the Department of Public Record (DPI) – United Nations as well as affiliated with the United Religious Initiative (URI), an Interfaith Peace organization.